Someone that you love, whom you are with. Something that you love, that you own. Something that you belief in. Very much. Very, very much.
Family. Your best friend(s). The person you love most in your life.
The brand new car that you own, that, you bought with the first money you earned on your own. Your heart breaks when you see a fingernail scratch on it. You want to wash it every day, if you could.
Your favorite video game that you play every day, if you could.
Your favorite hiking trail in the national park, because, beautiful flowers. Beautiful rock formations. Beautiful scenery. Beautiful animals. Beautiful plants. Beautiful rivers and oceans.
Job security. Fame. Fortune. Happiness. Struggles. Pain. Success.
Your beliefs. Your religion. Your rights.
Let it go.
Someone or something that would make you hurt so bad when you let go because you’ve invested so much time into, because you’ve invested so much money into, because you’ve spent so much effort into, because it’s the only activity that keeps you sane.
But let it go.
Choose to let it go.
Because your core is decaying; your fundamentals are being challenged; the people around you are hurting; the landscape you step on is changing; the air you breathe is affected.
Because your love is suffocating the growth of those around you, people whom otherwise CANNOT see what you have saw; experience what you experienced.
Because when you are driving too close to the vehicle in front of you, you cannot see the traffic ahead, and that you risk the lives of those in your car.
Because growth CANNOT happen without pain.
Love uses energy, pain uses energy, growth uses energy, happiness is energy. Slowing down uses energy, hurrying up uses energy. Ruminating uses energy. Procrastinating uses energy. Perfection uses energy.
And energy CANNOT be created or destroyed. It changes from a form to another.
That, is what both of these movies have in common.
As for the length of these movies…
Letting go, learning and growing takes cycles of time.
You can’t hurry a good plot; it ends in time.
As for me, it was learning to let go of my wedding ring. I didn’t realize how hard it was, it is, until I had thought of taking it off for good. I wasn’t ready.
I knew it was for him, too, when he lost so much weight that his ring kept falling off his finger.
What was interesting was that we never thought of getting rings. We didn’t even think to be married. But without realizing it, it seemed like the memories of our relationship, the energy of our relationship, has been magically stored in our rings.
I took my wedding ring off a few days after we buried his remains. That was almost two months ago.
I put it on again today, knowing that I can let it go whenever I want to. Until one day, the emotional oscillation dampens like an inverse Fibonacci sequence.